Per Bristow is a vocal coach and performance coach based in Los Angeles and the creator of the Bristow Voice Method - that for more than 15 years has empowered singers and speakers to heal, develop and free their voices.
His Sing With Freedom and The Singing Zone home study program has trained thousands of people from 132 nations to develop greater awareness of body and mind, rapidly release restrictions, and effectively develop all physical aspects of the voice. In addition, his method is known to go far beyond developing the physical aspects of the voice, to truly free the "inner voice", to gain greater levels of well-being, confidence, creativity and health, as well as dramatically improve communication, presentation and performance skills.
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16 November 2014
I'm Per Bristow and I am truly honored to help you achieve your dreams. For the last two decades, I've been helping high-in-demand professionals, up-and-coming artists, as well as "hobbyists" with the same goal in mind: To get the person from where they are to where they want to be in the most effective way.
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As you may know, the Sing With Freedom and The Singing Zone home study program has trained tens of thousands of singers in 117 countries. Although it has become the world's most popular training program, I have never set out to win popularity contests. My passion is to develop strategies to help you become a better version of yourself - to develop what you are truly capable of.
I know how detrimental it can be when the voice isn't functioning the way we would like it to. It's not fun when those high notes don't come out, or if the voice breaks, or if you get hoarse and tired. Nor is it fun when you feel you don't sound good, or you're not confident to express.
Being able to sing well with confidence and freedom is a very important activity. Singing is a vital part of every society. It's a natural way of expressing yourself, and it brings with it numerous proven health benefits. Singing is for everybody and we can enjoy singing on many different levels. What would life be if we had no music and song?
Having said that, my training is not for everyone. That is why I'm giving you this free video so you get a fundamental understanding of my philosophy before you take another singing lesson.
You'll see why singing scales is counter productive, why we don't engage in the standard detrimental statements, such as "sing through your mask" or " sing from your stomach".
You'll also understand why it is that this kind of training goes far beyond developing your physical voice - it also empowers you as a human being. You become more confident and influential, and you therefore attract greater success both on and off the stage.
However, step number one is to watch the video:
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I hope this is the beginning of a great journey to discover, release and develop amazing new abilities within you!
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Is it really true that people in this day and age believe this about singing? Here are some examples posted from people on Facebook:
“U can not teach anyone to sing! It is a gift!”
“If you aren’t born singing, it is like art, you can’t be taught.”
“If you can sing, you can. If you can’t, why pretend”
“You either have it or you don’t. No singing lessons will help you much”
Can it really be true that people really believe such nonsense? I’m afraid many really do. Far too many.
What makes people think developing their singing voice is any different from developing any other skill?
I’ve never heard anyone say “you either have it or you don’t” about playing tennis, playing guitar, writing, or cooking. Have what exactly? What is “it”?
See, if you are saying singing can’t be taught, you are also saying you cannot learn, develop, or improve at all.
Now, I understand that it is possible that “singing lessons” conjure up beliefs of singing scales and engaging in old-fashioned training methods. It is true that many pop and rock singers shy away from such training, and rightly so.
Perhaps these beliefs stem from the truth that people who have a hard time singing on key, and those who sound “bad” due to restricted voices (considered non-talented), likely never develop much by singing scales (as explained in this video). Maybe that is what adds to the myth that you can’t train to get a good singing voice.
But does someone seriously believe that successful, so-called “talented” people do nothing to develop? That they don’t train? That they haven’t been influenced by mentors in some way – whether we call it “lessons” or not?
And then we have people in the other camp who like to believe:
“Anyone can sing, you just need the heart for it.”
Well, it sounds lovely, but it’s really just as ignorant and misleading as saying that all you need is heart to be a great piano player. Yes, it’s true that the super skilled have enormous “hearts”. It is the “heart”, the love, the passion, that have made them endure the rejections, the naysayers, the pain and suffering, and the hours of hours of endless training.
It is that heart that makes the super successful continue when most people would give up. And I have written endlessly about the fact that the successful are the ones who fail and dare to fail more often.
However, heart and passion doesn’t make you skilled. You don’t suddenly develop a skill just because you have “heart”. Love and passion for something is not something you just “have”.
But surely, Per, you’re not denying that some people are more talented than others?
No, I’m not denying that. But I am questioning who has the ability to judge it. Is it the kid who sings wonderfully on pitch at the age of six who is going to become a great singer? I beg to disagree. It may very well be the shy, introverted 16 year old who has never sung before who becomes the poet and singer and creative force that influences the world.
The only thing we can judge is the skill someone has in the moment. And the lack of skill may very well be a result of a failed strategy, rather than a reflection of the real potential.
Maybe it is the 75 year-old who has never sung before who becomes the powerful role model of what is possible, and has a far greater impact on people than any singer before them.
In fact, it is very possible that the person who is actively engaged in creating wonderful music in their community choir has a far greater impact on the community than Madonna has.
But who can measure that?
However, even if someone is more skilled than another, the real question is: So what? Why do we have to judge in the first place?
The real point here is that I don’t need to strive to win the Wimbledon in order to enjoy playing tennis. My level of “talent” has nothing to do with if I like to have a coach to help me improve, learn and enjoy playing even more.
Does the level of “talent” determine how you are allowed to participate in and enjoy an activity? Is it only the “gifted” that are allowed to enjoy and participate in the arts? Are you not allowed to improve unless you measure up to some level of “talent”?
Seriously, we have to stop these detrimental beliefs and judgments about “talents” and “gifts”.
The only thing that matters is if you have the capacity to improve. And the answer to that is of course always yes. (Improving isn’t defined by jumping higher or singing higher notes. We have the capacity to improve in many ways.)
The next question to ask is if you like to improve.
It’d like to suggest that every single human being likes to improve. Every single human being loves to learn, grow, explore, discover, and experience somehow. Whether improvements are measurable or not are not always relevant. It is the experience from engaging in meaningful activities that gives us joy. My passion is to help people experience this, to help them draw out more of their potential, to help you experience growth and possibilities within. Experiencing a sense of growth is the juice of life. In fact, we could argue it is the very definition of life.
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If you haven’t read the previous article, you might want to do so first. Click here to read it first. (By the way, thanks to all of you who made some wonderful insightful comments!)
To bring home this point I will here use a real exchange with a human being – a woman named Gail. Ultimately it is not about her, but about the common beliefs and tendencies.
She had posted publicly a comment directly in regards to what I do and offer. This time instead of just ignoring it, I wanted to dig deeper. I wanted to understand what drives someone to believe this, and why someone wants to post it publicly. It turned into a fascinating and frightening exploration of human ignorance and the subtle abuse of children.
Gail first wrote:
“You have to be born with a voice, just like a ball player has to be born with a pitching arm.”
Now, these nonsense comments are not new. In this case, anyone would understand that it is somewhat helpful to have a voice if you want to sing, and an arm if you want to pitch baseball. But she obviously means more than that. So, I decided to post this response:
“The good news is that most people are born with a voice, just as most people are born with an arm. Then the question is what we want to learn to do with what we were born with. “
She then responds:
“Of course everyone is born with a voice. I was talking about a GREAT voice. Or a great pitching arm. You have to be born with those talents. Everyone can’t sing. That’s a scam, saying that. Watching the video cannot turn a monotone into Whitney Houston. Don’t be ridiculous. One has to have the pipes, has to be born with the voice.”
Aha, so there we have it. She meant – and quite adamantly so – that one has to be born with a GREAT voice. But in order to do what exactly? Is she the one who is able to pinpoint who exactly it is of all newborns who has the “GREAT voice”. Perhaps she would like to be the one who labels those who don’t. So she concludes everyone can’t sing? Okay. So what? Not everyone can speak Swedish either. I have yet to hear an infant sing Ave Maria.
She mentions that watching a video cannot turn a “monotone” into Whitney Houston. Have I claimed this? (She is referring to the free video presentation at The Singing Zone.) If she had bothered to educate herself and do a little research, she would know that I am a proponent of training. Whitney Houston is, in fact, a great example of someone who was engrossed in training (i.e. singing, exploring her voice and expressing herself in song), as well as being exposed to great singers and mentors from when she was born.
But like we discussed in the previous article, I don’t need to beat Roger Federer to enjoy playing tennis, so I wrote:
“The other good news is that you don’t have to be Whitney Houston to enjoy singing, nor do you have to be the world’s best pitcher to play baseball. Of course everyone can improve their singing, just like everyone can improve throwing a ball. The question is how to improve effectively. This training is for those who love to sing, and would love to engage in ways to effectively develop this wonderful form of expression.”
“That’s true, but there are some monotones who will never sing. It is a scam to promise people they can learn to sing. That’s false.”
So what on earth is a “monotone”? Who is Gail, and who is the child or adult that she wants to label “a monotone”?
I should add that I have never met someone who has the ability to only make one frequency. Have you? Imagine every sound you make is exactly 440Hz. Wow, that would be pretty incredible. Our friend Gail does apparently not really know about music, frequencies or what the word “monotone” means. Nor does she obviously have any idea of what singing and singing training is, or what I do. Nor does she likely know what drove her internally to post this in the first place.
She obviously feels a need to express herself. She wants to feel important. She wants to be heard. We can all understand that. These are basic human needs. This is also why singing is one of the most empowering activities we can engage in, why every culture sings, and every infant “sings” – until they are shut down by people like Gail who tell the untrained, or the ones who don’t measure up to Whitney Houston, to be quiet and call them “monotone”.
You may have seen some of the many case stories, such as the video with James who was shut down all his life from a belief that came from a choir director once telling him that he would never be able to sing. But now, he is finally finding so much joy singing in the choir.
You have heard the enlightening wisdom from Art Therapist Laura about the traumas of being silenced as a kid, and the important therapeutic benefits of releasing your voice – however good or bad the Gails of the world think you are.
And Gail goes on:
“There are absolutely people who can never carry a tune. Ask any nursery school music teacher. We all have different skills in life. Not everyone can sing. You’re making false promises, if you promise that.
Nursery school teacher? Now, that’s interesting. Is she herself a teacher? At a nursery school? And she believes that from having observed a child who doesn’t sing in tune, she now has the right to judge the child’s future abilities? Has she really no understanding of the vast difference between an observed ability/skill in the moment, versus what a person is potentially capably of in the future.
Does this labeling only apply to singing and throwing a ball, or all other skills and abilities also?
So I wrote, admittedly quite harshly:
“Imagine the child entering Gail’s nursery school who doesn’t sing in tune and is told: “You will NEVER learn to sing”. Imagine the child who misses the first attempt at shooting a basketball and is therefore told: “You will NEVER play basketball”. Imagine the child who cannot write and is told: “You will NEVER learn to write”. It is tragic that children every day are being abused like that.”
Now, I call it abuse and that’s a strong word. Many times what happens is not meant as abuse. It comes from loving people who just don’t know better.
When my son was in preschool we noticed a pattern that his teacher was often jokingly telling him “You never talk to me”. Several years later she would still repeat the same thing. And she was right. Why on earth would he want to talk to her after having received that label? Does she really believe putting a negative label on a child will make the child change? Of course not. Finally when he got another teacher, he would open up and communicate in a completely different way.
Does our friend Gail seriously think that the kid who feels she doesn’t sing well, is the kid who is going to go home and practice like crazy to overcome this difficulty – especially if she has come to believe there is something wrong with her – that she was never born with “the voice”? Especially since she has been told by her trusted teacher that she cannot possibly learn, and that anyone who tells you so is a fraud and a scam.
Is she suddenly going to feel comfortable to sing out beautifully? Of course not. Maybe the fears and discomfort of “not being good” is restricting the vibration, which makes singing on key extremely difficult. Maybe the kid hasn’t been exposed to music, or she has never had the opportunity to experiment and explore her voice without being judged. Maybe he has been told to be quiet. Maybe the key the teacher picked doesn’t fit comfortably. Maybe there is a hearing problem. There are a numerous factors that can all be fixed. And there are always ways for someone to become better at a skill through effective strategies.
Yet, the ignorant teacher, who does no research and has evidently no interest in learning herself, prefers to simply label the child (and adult) as someone who is “not born with a voice”.
It’s also interesting that Gail refers to baseball – especially in the light of the fact that I have written extensively about sports, including my son’s baseball endeavors and his skills. I’ve written about when my son showed up on the baseball field at the age of 5 and astounded everyone with his “natural talent”. The reason I wrote this was exactly to help explain the enormous amount of training he had already been engaged in to develop the coordination and awareness of his body, eye sight, mental attitude to learning and performing, the mechanics of throwing, etc., that the uninformed unfortunately just want to call “natural”.
Now we could easily argue that I am abusing Gail, here. She will be invited to read this and I’m sure it won’t be pleasant. We can all understand and be compassionate since it is very possible that Gail is not aware of some traumas of her own that may have caused her to believe this. I frankly hope this will help her awaken.
As adults we do have the potential to reflect and make choices. We can choose to become even more hostile and go on the attack or we can choose to reflect and learn from hurtful events and our mistakes. Perhaps Gail would like to reflect on why it is that she likely has not developed her singing voice herself, or why she likely isn’t very good at throwing a ball. Perhaps she would like to reflect on the fact that those who have learned how to acquire skills are also the ones who often willingly want to help others. Perhaps she wants to do some more research and think before calling the next educator and trainer a scam due to her own fears.
Now she did write one final response to my last comment to defend herself. She wrote:
“I have never discouraged a child in my life. You do not know me. I will never tell an innocent child s/he can’t do something. But holding out a false hope to an adult is a scam. Tell me you don’t make money from this? I have never put down a kid in my life. I have great works of art all over my fridge from grammar school art projects. They are cute and beautiful. What were you thinking accusing me of putting down kids. You don’t know that I worked, advocated for kids all my born days. I’m 72.”
So there we have it. She has never discouraged anyone. Expect for the fact that she has publicly tried to discourage everyone who wasn’t “born with a GREAT voice”.
She will never tell an innocent child she can’t do something. The question is if that only applies to those who are “born with the talent”, or it would otherwise give them “false hope”. (Or maybe that was just for the adults.)
We have never doubted she has great artwork by kids on her fridge. The question is what happens to the art that is by her deemed “ not great”.
It is not surprising that, as it turns out, she loves children and wants to protect them. Gail is probably a wonderful person in many ways who has done a lot of good in the world.
But this article is intended to encourage thought. I hope it encourages you, who may have come to believe in what you can or cannot do, to realize that it is perfectly fine to engage in activities, improving them, and enjoying them, without having to be judged as “great”.
I hope it encourages everybody to watch out for the tendency to label children, as well as label adults. The way you lead your life today is likely due to beliefs you have formed at an early age. Perhaps you have been hurt and ridiculed. Perhaps you have been labeled. And we should also understand that “you are a natural” is also a label that can cause just as much problems as “you are a monotone” with the heightened expectations that come with it.
To close, we should understand that hopes, goals, dreams and aspirations are very frightening for some. Many adults want to protect children by shutting down goals and aspirations out of fear of disappointment. They don’t realize that it is not the accomplishment of the dream and goal itself that is the reward, but it’s the journey that gives life a purpose. Yes, we understand that there are many out there who are afraid, and therefore don’t want to encourage “false hopes”.
Personally, I don’t provide hope. I provide training.
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